Usually what I do is represent memory as a "grid", so that I can make up addresses, highlight different memory spaces and write in the cells values (or even further, their binary representations) and link the pointers in memory to the values they point at.

Usually it's a "ohhhh" moment for most of my students.

Then when it comes to have them stop forgetting how to use & and *, it's very simple: present it the same way they do math or physics calculations. If you divide a distance in km by a time in hour, you get a speed in km/h. What's in needs to be out. Simple.

Sorry, cannot do you a drawing now, unfortunately.